Desire: What it is, How it Works & How to Regain it Post Cancer
Brakes (Inhibitors)
- Worries about being able to get aroused
- Things must be “just right” to get aroused
- Uncertainties about how my partner feels about me
- Worried about taking too long to become aroused
- Feeling too shy or reserved about sexual intimacy
Accelerators (Excitors)
- Observing partner doing something illustrating their competence/talents, increases arousal
- Thinking about someone I find sexually attractive, or fantasizing about sex
- Particular scents can be evocative
- Thinking about sex when bored
Explanation of Dual Control Model: Brakes & Accelerators
(from Sexual Temperament Questionnaire, Nagoski)